“This is my calling – this is what I am doing to honor my wife, Carol, and my children’s lives.”

Jim's Story

Over the past 23 years, I have learned a great deal about children’s bullying behavior from authors, principals, teachers, parents, and from students themselves.

 

I hope that you won’t feel like I’m talking down to you. I am sure that much of what I teach isn’t new information.

 

But I have a unique perspective that only a father who has lost a son can have. On November 11, 1995, my son Curt was driving to a restaurant. His car was hit by a pickup truck travelling 100 mph. He died at 1:20 in the morning.

 

The first thing we heard from police was that the man driving the truck was drunk. His truck damaged several other cars, but only Curt’s vehicle was hit head on.

 

Although the driver “Roy” had been drinking for six hours, the bartender at the bar didn’t think that it was his responsibility to take away his keys and call a cab.

 

No one else in the bar considered Roy to be their responsibility either.

 

I forgave Roy at the funeral. My anger – all of my anger – was directed at the bar. How could so many people look the other way when Roy left that bar?

 

Why couldn’t just one person have become a ‘leader’ to do the right thing?

 

The United Way agency where I worked as a parent volunteer came to my rescue. A counselor from the agency asked me to speak to her high school students. Why would young people want to listen to an old man?, I wondered. She told me to just share my feelings about the impact bad choices can have on other people.

 

I wrote a play about my family. I described what our world was like before and after the accident. At the end, I could not stop crying. 1,200 students in the gym erupted with cheers and applause.

 

I knew in that moment exactly what I had to do with the rest of my life.

 

The Call Me Jim video series contains four DVDs that you can share with your students, as well as a facilitator’s guide with reproducible worksheets.

 

I believe that this series is a special tool for your students. Kids will grow into leaders with the right tools. In the past 23 years, I’ve experienced this very joy hundreds of times.

 

And if we meet some day? Please call me Jim.

Read more about the impact
Jim has made over the years.

S., 3rd Grader

“Thank you for the wonderful time yesterday! I would most love to point out the pros of your speech. First off, is the amazing job you did at conveying your message while entertaining us. I also enjoyed the subtlety here and there."
2017-08-22T00:17:39+00:00
“Thank you for the wonderful time yesterday! I would most love to point out the pros of your speech. First off, is the amazing job you did at conveying your message while entertaining us. I also enjoyed the subtlety here and there."

G., 6th Grader

“Thank you so much for coming to our school...from what I can tell after you left, the bullying rate has gone down. Which for me is a tremendous thing. Everyone is a lot more kind and will let the kids that would normally be bullied hang out. It looks like you can do miracles.”
2017-08-22T00:18:09+00:00
“Thank you so much for coming to our school...from what I can tell after you left, the bullying rate has gone down. Which for me is a tremendous thing. Everyone is a lot more kind and will let the kids that would normally be bullied hang out. It looks like you can do miracles.”

K., 7th Grader

“My heart has changed ever since you came. You have a gift to really speak and get your point across...I think all of our hearts changed the day you came. People who had really been mean to one boy have changed and now give him their friendship. I should have stood up for him, but I didn’t. After your speech, I now know to stand up for people when they are getting bullied.”
2017-08-22T00:19:39+00:00
“My heart has changed ever since you came. You have a gift to really speak and get your point across...I think all of our hearts changed the day you came. People who had really been mean to one boy have changed and now give him their friendship. I should have stood up for him, but I didn’t. After your speech, I now know to stand up for people when they are getting bullied.”

J., 7th Grader

“I think I’m speaking for a lot of kids in my grade and others: what you said really inspired us to make better choices as individuals and classmates.”
2017-08-22T00:22:25+00:00
“I think I’m speaking for a lot of kids in my grade and others: what you said really inspired us to make better choices as individuals and classmates.”

M., 5th Grader

“I shared your stories with my mom and dad! They now know what bullying really means and how bad things can come from bullying.”
2017-08-22T00:23:03+00:00
“I shared your stories with my mom and dad! They now know what bullying really means and how bad things can come from bullying.”

N., 4th Grader

“I would like to tell you that your presentation impacted my life. I think I will stick up for people being bullied now. I don’t want people to be mean. I think kids should be kind to each other. If kids aren’t kind, it can make other kids feel really bad.”
2017-08-22T00:23:31+00:00
“I would like to tell you that your presentation impacted my life. I think I will stick up for people being bullied now. I don’t want people to be mean. I think kids should be kind to each other. If kids aren’t kind, it can make other kids feel really bad.”

K., 4th Grader

“I learned that a bully isn’t someone who does something that happens once. They do it over and over again.”
2017-08-22T00:24:15+00:00
“I learned that a bully isn’t someone who does something that happens once. They do it over and over again.”

A., 5th Grader

“I hope that you know how many people you touched during your speech...I hope that your speech really improves our school.”
2017-08-22T00:24:42+00:00
“I hope that you know how many people you touched during your speech...I hope that your speech really improves our school.”

A., 4th Grader

“When you said to stand up, don’t stand by? It is already happening. I have been talking to kids that I have never talked to before. You are what all of the kids are talking about.”
2017-08-22T00:25:16+00:00
“When you said to stand up, don’t stand by? It is already happening. I have been talking to kids that I have never talked to before. You are what all of the kids are talking about.”

A., 3rd Grader

“You helped me a lot with just that one speech.”
2017-08-22T00:25:47+00:00
“You helped me a lot with just that one speech.”

Learn how the
Call Me Jim program
can transform your school.

Learn how the
Call Me Jim program
can transform your school.